Hierophant Knowledge :: Men who DON'T believe in love. Susan Edwards. The unhealed side of Sadomasochism.

Introduction. Amera Ziganii Rao 

While I think it is increasingly important to say that love and hate are not about women and men, but rather archetypes in this life and the different dynamics between dominants and submissives, strong leadership and kind support or however one wants to put it, this is a very powerful chapter from Susan Edwards from her book, When Men Believe in Love.

This chapter however also reflects the worst wound of what I term 'The Patriarchal Womb Stealing Tribe Society'. In other words, misogyny, ownership, revenge and dehumanisation and how men can be, specifically in relation to women, after they have been hurt. Either by their upbringings, or indeed, through their psyches or their experiences as adults. This is wounding and vengeance, backed by insititutional dehumanisation of women. Institutional lack of humanity, cruelty, greed, vengeance and the need to inflict pain. Pure cruelty and impenetrable hearts and the most wounded people on the planet and the vengeance they mete out on the rest of the human race, whether it is Hitler killing 10 million people or one man who cannot love one woman. Men who cannot love. And men who, brought up in the most macho sector of society, who remain completely ignorant that healing can be achieved by anyone, through amassing emotional intelligence and leaving behind the past. That anyone can actually heal. They just have to do the work. And find people who can help them. And feel. The real life Darcy's of this world and worse. The tyrants and dictators who need to be humbled and taught to love, whether in the home or in the country.

Amera Ziganii Rao © 2011


Hierophant Knowledge :: Men Who Don’t Believe in Love. By Susan Edwards

He wore his suffering openly, like a bright-coloured jacket thrown over his shoulders for all to see. “I was abused as a child” he had once told her. She had tried to soothe his pain of past injustice with kindness. And she felt such passion for him.

She covered his nude body with fresh petals of red roses and kissed him all over. With a pure heart she loved this man and felt compassion for the sad boy-child she saw reflected in his eyes.

“I love you”, he said (sixteen times one Valentine’s Day). “And I’m not going anywhere. We can have forever.”

She believed him, this man she honestly loved, the one who had said that no one had ever loved him the way she did. And then he left. He sabotaged their relationship, blamed her and was gone. Devastated, she was. He hadn’t told her he had chosen to never believe in love.

Emotional pain is seldom as excruciating as that which accompanies the loss of someone we love. It hurts our heart of hearts. When the loss is unexpected, it hurts even more. The woman in the story above cried and cried. She was unaware that the man who seemed so open to her love had made a decision years before that kept the door of his heart locked.

While there are many reasons men might not believe in love, only some of them will be introduced in this chapter. These ideas are not intended to be all-inclusive. They simply provide a contrast with those of Chapter 1 and the remainder of the book.

SOME REASONS MEN DON’T BELIEVE IN LOVE

ONE. THEY DON’T CHOOSE TO

A love relationship involves the element of free choice. People choose love. Likewise, they may elect not to choose it. The man in the story had decided years earlier that he would never believe in love. He didn’t view it as something real. He didn’t think it was anything important. And if he found himself happy in a relationship with a woman, his view of himself within the world, would have to change. He saw himself as someone who was destined to suffer as a way of life. He preferred manipulation to honest love.

With love, he had nowhere to hide, and the control he achieved through martyrdom and manipulation would gradually have been lost. For him to have been honest with her, he would have needed to be honest with himself.

In a culture where people have rights, freedom of choice involves the exercise of those rights. Love is simply one thing that can be chosen – or not – depending on the decision of the other person. When the other person is a man, he may exercise his freedom by not choosing love.

And while that might be surprising to the woman involved, it is one of his fundamental rights as a person. If he made that decision, perhaps years before meeting her, and tells her that, it will make a big difference. She may be unhappy but will not feel betrayed.

TWO. THEY DON’T REALISE BELIEVING IN LOVE IS AN OPTION

He looked at me with huge brown eyes, this adolescent of sixteen who sat in my office. He scanned the room with intensity and then said, “I am of the generation that no longer believes in love.”

“Howcome?” I asked, wondering what he was thinking.
“Because grown ups show me that it doesn’t work. I mean, look around, once people become grown they stop growing. They act like jerks and lose any ability to relate to people. They turn into zombies that work and sleep and complain in between.”

He then took from his notebook two letters. His parents were having extreme marital strife and seldom spoke to each other without screaming. They had no interest in marriage therapy and Tom came to the community health centre because they were tired of his “bad attitude”. He was depressed. Despite his superior intelligence, his grades in school were low.

“Here, look at these,” he said, handing me the letters. I looked at them, and for the first time in my clinical experience, had an adolescent present to me something I had never seen before. “These are my parents’ love letters,” he said. “They are kind and feeling. They talk to each other like human beings, but the people who wrote these letters do not live in my house.”

He paused, and then he added, “If that is what it means to be a grown up – that I have to turn into some kind of unfeeling zombie – I just don’t want it. I don’t ever want to lose the part of myself that these letters represent.”

There was no way I could get Tom’s parents to enter treatment. Everything I tried failed. I did, however, succeed in showing Tom that there were still several adults in his world who had maintained the part of themselves he wanted to hold onto. And in the end, his grades rose, and he unearthed his dream of studying to be a veterinarian.

Some men have no significant adult to give back their lost or stolen hope. As a result, what they understand as the intellectual options available to them are reduced. They see only one choice; love is not real and not something you can hold on to. It is similar to some graffiti my friend Brian saw in the men’s room of a local restaurant. It read, “Love’s an illusion, pal.”

THREE. THEY DON’T UNDERSTAND LOVE AND THEREFORE THEY FEAR IT

I was writing the psychological history of a fifteen-year-old adolescent boy who had been in foster homes for several years after his mother had physically abused him. He had run away from something like twelve homes in a year and a half. I was reviewing this history with him and the events of the different foster placements.

After the first eight he complained about something the foster parents had done wrong. These people yelled at him; these were mean to him; these didn’t like him, and so on. After the list was finished I realised he had omitted one family.

“You missed one,” I said. “What about Family X? Were they mean also?”
He paused, his eyes softened and he looked down. “Oh,” he said, “no, they weren’t mean. They loved me.”
“And you ran away?” I said.
“Yeah.”
“How come?” I asked.
“It scared me,” he said.

Adult men have echoed this same experience. When they met a woman who really loved them, they didn’t understand what was happening. They could understand the possibility of rejection, for that had often been the known, but acceptance and love remained the unknown. And there is something about the unknown that evokes terror in the hearts of humans.

What is not known or understood is often feared. When fear is experienced, we withdraw from the situation that arouses the fear. We run away: leave the situation or reject the person we associate the fear with. This is a ‘flight’ response to fear which destroys intimacy.

Sometimes we keep on running in what psychologists call a self-defeating cycle. By avoiding the unknown situation which scares us is never becomes known. The cycle is not broken. Love remains the unknown. Relationships characterized by withdrawal from intimacy remain the unknown.

FOUR. THEY ARE STUCK EMOTIONALLY SOMEWHERE ELSE

Different feelings can be experienced at the same time. We can be angry at people at the same time love them. When people are close to us emotionally, the feelings we have for them can be very complex. Likewise, feelings can act to cancel each other. Intense rage from the past can act to cancel joy in the present. Sorrow or loneliness from an earlier time in one’s life can interfere in how one relates to the present. Misery from the past can splash over the events of the present and stain them.

Tony hated his mother. She was a self-centred, manipulative, demanding person. She controlled him in a demeaning way and showed little appreciation for his efforts to please her. Tony was forty three years old. His relationships with women followed a pattern. He selected women to become involved with who were self-centred, manipulative and demanding. And then he hated them.

Once he became involved with a kind, loving woman. He controlled her in a demeaning way and showed little appreciation for her efforts to please him. In essence, he treated the woman just as his mother had treated him. Eventually, he rejected her.

Tony was stuck in rage. He hated his mother but at the same time, failed to see how his rage controlled his relationships with women. And his poor treatment of a kind, loving woman could be explained by a psychological concept called identification with the aggressor.

Basically, it means that sometimes a person who is victimized tries to escape the powerlessness of a situation by acting like the aggressor to someone else. In Tony’s case, he felt victimized by his demeaning, unappreciative mother, as well as powerless, since sons are initially totally dependent on the mother.

He tried to escape those powerless feelings by repeating his mother’s cruel behaviour, in turn victimizing the kind woman who loved him. The idea is somewhat complex but the effect destructive.

“How can you be so mean to me when I have been so kind to you?” the woman asks.
“Because my rage at another woman is controlling me.”
When a man is stuck in rage, it affects how he sees the world and how he sees women. And it is difficult to become unstuck. The emotional pain associated with the original event that hurt him is often very intense. It creates a scar on his heart – like a cattle brand burned into the flesh. It interferes with and even cancels the present.

FIVE. THEY ARE OPERATING IN A DIFFERENT STAGE OF DEVELOPMENT, AND TIMING IS AN ISSUE

“There was a time”, he said, “when I would only seduce and reject women. I would not let them get close to me emotionally. I don’t know why, but I acted that way for years.”
“how long?” she asked.
“About five years,” he said.
She said nothing. What she was thinking was how those women were hurt and didn’t even have a chance. They were caught in the ‘acting out’ period of his life.

There has been much research on human growth and development. From the time we are infants on, we grow and develop in predictable ways. Adolescence is a time of turmoil, and if we make it through that, we move into adult developmental patterns. Sometimes, we get snagged on a nail in one of the stages and may remain stuck there for years. The man in the conversation found himself stuck for five years. Others have been stuck for longer periods of time.

Often, midlife crisis reflects those snagged or stuck developmental periods. What we needed to learn at earlier ages – but didn’t – comes back to hit us square in the face. When the person is a man, it can force a re-evaluation of the past. Timing, an issue of importance at each step along life’s path, becomes even more critical.

SIX. THEY CATEGORIZE ALL WOMEN AND HAVE DISTORTED THINKING

I have a friend who is head of the homicide detective unit for a large metropolitan area. He supervises detectives who investigate murders. He told me that in most of the domestic violence murders, he often knows what the male suspects (husbands, boyfriends, lovers) will tell his detectives before they are interviewed.

Detectives have to piece together the elements of the crime. In more than 98% of the cases, my friend said, when they ask the male suspect what happened that the wife, girlfriend, woman , lover was killed, the answer will often be, “She brought it on herself.”
“What did she do?”the detective will ask.
“She did this or that,”the man will answer.
“And for that she deserved to die?”the detective might suggest.
“She knew I don’t like this or that,”the man will frequently say.
This story is a somewhat extreme example of distorted thinking. From research in social psychology, such behaviour is called ‘blaming the victim’, a concept of attribution theory, the study of how people explain what happens in their lives. What it means is this.

If a man has distorted thinking towards a woman, he will blame her for things that are not her fault. And then he will punish her because he blames her. The ultimate punishment, according to the detective, is that one person kills another and then says, “She had it coming.”

The next poem provides a picture of distorted thinking.
How to Break a Person
With blows
That break the spirit
And then control
Through weakness
Caused by you.

Distorted thinking is thinking that is not clear. Psychologically twisted, it blocks feelings of compassion because one is seeing the distorted image of the other person like a reflection from a funhouse mirror. When a man’s thinking is distorted, it interferes with love.

Categorizing women interferes also. If one woman causes a man great pain, he believes that all women will do the same thing. If one attractive woman is cruel, they all are. If one woman is difficult to live with, then all women are.Generalizing from one situation to all others causes problems in seeing the present situation clearly. It increases the level of error in daily life.

One of the fields of modern psychology that addresses issues within this section is called cognitive psychology. It is concerned with how people interpret events. How we think is related to how we act and how we feel. Human beings are complex and thoughts, feelings, and actions are all interrelated.

Distorted thinking causes emotional pain and hurtful behaviour. The process of change is not an easy one. It is, however, quite possible.

SEVEN. THEY VIEW LOVE AS IRRELEVANT AND ACCEPT OTHER POWER MODELS

“If you want a relationship with me,” he said, “you need to do things my way.”
“What things?” she asked.
“Whatever I say. I’m the boss and what I say goes.”
“What about me?” she asked, “What about my thoughts and feelings – and what about love?”
“look”, he replied, “You can be replaced. I have enough money to get whatever I want. So if you don’t like it this way, you’re free to leave. It’s that simple. And don’t give me that emotional crap.”
She sighed. Somewhere between the beginning and end of he conversation, she watched as the rules were chiselled in stone while he wielded the hammer.

The man in this conversation is clarifying two things. First, he has power over the woman and the relationship; he doesn’t view it as shared power. Second, he believes people are disposable and can be replaced. In addition, it is also quite possible that he and the woman adhere to different models of power. When that is the case, relationship conflict often results.

There are many different types of power. Here are some of them.

Types of Power.
A – Personal power: power over one’s self based on competence, skill, belief in self.
B – Role power: power from a position or role.
C – Power over others based on coercive power, power of the victim (martyr role).
D – Affiliative power: the power that comes from having people care about you.
E – Creative power: the power to imagine, dream and build.
Five different types of power, just to name a few. The power associated with love is considered a type of affiliative power. It comes alive through affiliation or relationships with other people.

If one person in a relationship believes in the primary importance of affiliative power (love) and the other person believes in coercive power (power over others), there is a basic lack of fit in the power models of the people in the relationship. In looking at the issue of men who do not believe in love, let us assume – as in the example above – that the woman believes in love and the man believes in coercive power. Then there is a problem.

He would see her model as irrelevant in the big scheme of things, and she would see his model as causing her emotional pain. What is essentially at issue is that the two people have discrepant models of power.

A reference to two discrepant power models is the basis of the next poem.

To Ed
I spoke with my eyes
And you did not listen.
I resorted to words
And you did not hear.
I gave of myself
And you did not value.
And now, when I show you silver,
You understand.
I should have been a jeweller.
Not a poet.

Some models overlap. One can be president of a company (role power); have many friends (affiliative power); and do wood carving (creative power) as a hobby. Some do not. Choosing coercive power (having power over others) often is consistent across relationships. A person who wants to control others often establishes a network of people to control.

There is a fit if other people accept coercive power; there is not if the others accept a different model like democracy or shared power, for example.

The power models people choose may vary over time. Midife crisis, for example, often involves the review and questioning of power models one chose at an earlier point in life. An executive who got into a position of power by tromping on others may find himself faced with an inner self he doesn’t like when his son, upon reaching young adulthood, rejects him.

The midlife re-evaluation this triggers in the executive can potentially cause him to reconsider some of his choices because the price in terms of his relationship with his son is too emotionally costly.

Sometimes too for men, experiencing a personal tragedy – unexpected job loss, near-fatal accident or physical illness – can trigger a type of re-evaluation of power models. When this happens, the resulting outcome can be change.

EIGHT. THEY FAKE IT

All of us pretend at times. We might pretend we like a gift to protect the feelings of the giver. We may feel self-conscious about not knowing something so we pretend we do. We might appear as if we don’t know something when we really do. But these types of pretending are within the normal range of behaviour. They are different from pretending in order to cover up malice.

What comes to mind is a clinical example from nearly twenty years ago. I was working in the south in an impatient clinic for drug addiction, assessing the entering patients, some of whom were there by order of the court. I evaluated one such man who I’ll call Herman.

In an evaluation, there are various questions one asks and various psychological information one attempts to elicit. It is a fairly standard routine. Halfway through the evaluation Herman started to cry. And when he did so, I went on with the interview, continuing to ask questions and gather information as tears ran down his face.

He had told me that his wife had died, and the tears appeared after eliciting that information. However, there was something about them that didn’t seem to fit; as a result, I had gone on with the interview.

I was trained to consider my own response to a situation as important information and therefore concluded that the reason I had continued with the interview was that there was something wrong with this picture.

So I developed a hypothesis. The hypothesis was this: perhaps what was missing was in the emotional area and could be more closely examined. So I designed a type of question that only someone who had experienced real grief would get correct. And he got it wrong. We then started to gather additional information.

It seems that the wife had died in a car accident. There was reason to think the car had been tampered with. Her family – his in-laws – had sued him for murder. And he was in the clinic in drug-related treatment as part of his court defence strategy.

What had been missing from his psychological assessment was grief that she was dead. The tears were an attempt to present himself as the grieving husband, a distractor from the possible truth of a situation very different from the one he was presenting.

Most members of the treatment staff commented on “Poor Herman, he’s devastated that his wife died.” I, on the other hand, agreed with the in-laws. This man had resented her, it seemed for a long time and seemed happy, in my judgment, she was no longer around. The tears were a means to present one picture of himself on the outside that was very different from the real dynamics on the inside. They were also tears of rage. He hated it that his in-laws could even consider suspecting him of murder, much less sue him. And what’s more, it’s quite possible that he did it.

There is no court of law in which something like the story I just shared could be used as evidence. And we are not at the point in forensic psychology to make a determination on the basis of scientific test results that would fit with Herman’s story. It does not necessarily follow that because one person does not feel grief, he is necessarily guilty of a crime like murder.

However, even though this is an extreme example, it illustrates the concept of pretending. Sometimes, when malice is present, one pretends in order to distract others from a fundamental truth that is just the opposite of the way things appear.

I know of men who kiss women they hate in public so that people will say, “What a loving husband so and so is.” There are men who send flowers to one woman while they are away on a weekend, having an affair with another. There are men who have sex with several women a night, pretending to hurry to a meeting or home while in reality they are hurrying to another bedroom. Pretenders find safety in how things appear.

NINE. THEY HIDE

I worked one year on the university faculty with a brilliant young mathematician. He was so intelligent I loved just to hear him talk, and I learned something important from him about some of the ways men hide.

Al was not vulnerable intellectually. He was brilliant and knew most of what was possible to know in his field. He was vulnerable emotionally, however, and I observed that whenever he was afraid, he attacked. As a result, he had a reputation among his colleagues as being objectionable, an unreasonable, difficult character. The truth was that when he was afraid he hid behind verbally attacking – lashing out – and he was so effective at it that no one ever figured out he was afraid. When I told him that I knew he just smiled.

“You’re right,” he conceded.
“Thanks,” I said, “Because what I’ve learned from you has changed the way I understand men.”

Since then I have observed that men hide in a variety of other ways. Sometimes they become so good at hiding that they even hide from themselves. Men can hide behind ideas; behind work; behind external situations like schedules, meetings, times of the year and so on; behind the needs or feelings of other people; and behind power.

They can also hide behind sexuality and seduction as well as behind women. They can become as invisible as they choose, and their actions are not often recognised as hiding. But they are.

Sometimes men hide from love. I know a businessman from India who met an American woman he found attractive. From Day One what he wanted was to have an affair with her, although he didn’t tell her that. What he said he wanted was to remarry. What she wanted was to love him. His wife had died a year before, and he presented himself as grieving. The woman was a sensitive sort and adapted her needs to fit his schedule. She thought that, in time, their relationship would grow.

Each time the woman adapted to his needs, each time she changed her schedule to accommodate his moods or the demands of his work schedule, she did so out of respect for his grief. She did this for nearly a year.

Finally she asked him to be there for her emotionally in a way she had never done before, one that would have publicly acknowledged their dating relationship. He responded with rage. He wanted his needs to control the relationship; her needs were unimportant and thus should have no power. And so he rejected her.

The next day she discovered that he had been hiding all along. She asked him if his children knew they were dating. He said his four adults didn’t know he was seeing anyone. The woman then understood how he had hidden behind his moods and his schedules and kept her from really participating in his life.

The real issues were power (he should have it) and greed. The smoke screens were grief and heavy workload (which he himself structured). Because of the woman’s compassionate nature, she didn’t see beyond what he wanted her to see. His means of hiding had worked.

Human behaviour is very complex, and all of us hide on occasion. But there are men who do so as a lifestyle. Only when someone stumbles onto the person beneath the disguise is he seen clearly.

TEN. THEY ARE UNABLE TO BOND EMOTIONALLY

“I am not able to love”, he told her. “A psychiatrist told me once.”
“Why is that?” she asked.
“It has something to do with my mother and me. Things that happened in the past, “ he said. What he didn’t say was how cruel he was.

Not all people are able to bond emotionally, although the number who fall statistically within this category is relatively small. In the extreme sense, people in this group have psychological disorders that interfere with maintaining relationships. Sociopaths and serial killers, for example, view people as objects to be exploited, not people to be related to.

They are able to act out cruelty towards others because a necessary degree of emotionality is missing within them. They have difficulty relating to others. While they may pretend they understand and possess feelings, to a large degree they don’t. Most emotion is outside their range of conscious experience.

Some theories suggest that these individuals were born with the ability to love and subsequently lost it as a result of early cruelty or trauma. Others suggest that some sort of genetic aberration prevented it from forming correctly. Still others are uncertain of how to explain the complex behaviour of individuals who consistently act out cruelty by killing animals and people as unprovoked expressions of rage.

This area continues to be one of active research, and its future holds the answers to questions about the whys of cruel behaviour that continue to haunt us in the present.

The Stranger
Ice eyes he had –
That pock-marked man looking out
From under his hat.
Maybe
He killed someone
Maybe he only wanted to
But his eyes ran blue cold and his stare
Cut wide paths to the soul.

We left that place then –
I forced my friend to go.
She went under protest.
Those eyes that chill the north wind –
Still
They shiver me.

Summary.

The stories in this chapter provide a contrast to those of Chapter 1. Some of the issues associated with individual men who don’t believe in love are presented and explained. They are not meant to be all-inclusive but offer a backdrop against which to consider the stories of men who do believe in love.

The book offers understanding as a goal, not relationship solutions. True understanding is empowering. It allows the individual to make informed choices about certain situations. Understanding functions as both a way to control loss (by preventing emotional pain) and strengthen relationships (by helping partners relate better to each other). It is something for which there is no substitute.

Some of the key ideas of the chapter are outlined as follows.

Men don’t believe in love for many reasons. One is because they don’t choose to. Relationships involve an element of volition; they are based on choice. If a man doesn’t choose love, he is exercising his right to choose.

Sometimes men don’t understand that belief in love is an option. Whether through past history, societal or cultural experience or through exposure to others who might have a discouraging influence on the individual, some men do not view hope for love as real.

Sometimes men don’t understand love and therefore fear it. As a result, they may withdraw love from the situation with which they associate fear. In this case, it may be from a relationship with a woman who loves them.

Often feelings from the past – intensely negative or positive ones – can cancel out the opportunity of love in the present. Anger at a mother, for example, could be a feeling from the past that could potentially spoil love available in the present. Likewise, unrequited love from the past (obsessing about a first love, for example) could result in the same effect.

Timing and development are personal issues that involve a man’s relationship with himself. Both can influence any type of relationship he can have with another person.

Not all women are cruel. A man who thinks that since one woman hurt him, all will, may be reluctant to risk emotional intimacy with a woman. Likewise, a man who experiences cognitive distortion – sees, for example, women through his own anger – will seldom risk emotional vulnerability.

Not all men accept the power that comes with love. They choose other models of power and view love as irrelevant to what is important in their lives.

There are men, who, when it comes to love, fake it. For a variety of reasons and motives, they cope with relationships by pretending, and live by how things appear.

There are men who hide from love, some more obviously than others.

There are individuals who are unable to bond emotionally, perhaps for a variety of reasons. Some of those are men.

On a Personal Note. From Susan Edwards 

Are you deciding to become involved with someone who doesn’t believe in love, or are you involved already? Consider the costs compared to the benefits. Apply in personal business a process often used in professional business: cost-benefit analysis. While the costs and benefits may be different (emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, familial, religious, historical), the procedure is similar. Participation in any relationship involves an element of choice and evaluation.

Remember too, that some people who do not believe in love change; others do not. If a relationship with such a man disintegrates over time (as they often do), remember that the blame rests on things like timing, personal evolution, ignorance, lack of understanding and personal choice. It doesn’t mean that you have done anything wrong. Understanding this is empowering and can soften the hurt and disappointment for what might have been.

Also remember that some of the men who started out in Chapter 2 ended up in Chapter 1 because they allowed love to enter their lives – sometimes love that had been given several years earlier. Not all men make this choice; men choose differently, and some are unable.

From the book, Men who Believe in Love by Susan Edwards.

Afterthought. Amera Ziganii Rao 

Thank you to the author for this invaluable piece of education and to outside sources for the photos, which are from the times of the goddess before 'The Patriarchal Womb Stealing Tribe Society' took over and wreaked its havoc throughout the world. What is more normally called misogyny and sexism. Why women are in so much pain at the hands of men today. Why men find it so hard to love.

I can also see now that this piece affects women as much as it does men. And that this whole exploration of the psyche goes way beyond misogyny, but may indeed be one of its root causes. Deepak Chopra has defined two archetypes of coping mechanisms for life. One denies evil completely, denies their own darkness and in the process, through my experience, and my observations and having been at the roughest end of their treatment, they become psychopaths. People of either sex who are unable and unwilling, psychotically, to see their own darkness and therefore deny it completely and make the other person out to be the villain always. In my experience and the reason for all my writing, these are the most dangerous human beings on Earth and unfortunately the rest of us are here to make them see their sickness. This seems to fit in perfectly now with Susan Edwards analysis of  men who do not believe in love. They do. But they cannot love without confronting their own darkness and that is their sickness and coping mechanism for life. A great deal is said about the other archetype's idealism of, as Deepak Chopra says, making one parent bad and the other good. Ie, my archetype, who's idealism was that I idealised one kind of human being while vilifiying another. It is true and I had to suffer the pain of healing that. I at least however could acknowledge that darkness existed. This other archetype is the most resistant and unyielding as they actually do not acknowledge darkness at all. So to be involved with any human being of this kind, whether one's parent or potential lover or indeed friend, is a terrible burden and it is unfortunately the responsibility of my archetype to make them see and to have the compassion to understand that it is a sickness, while demanding that they do indeed see. A human being who cannot see their own darkness is a psychopath and the rest of us have to work very hard to demand that they do see.

In the process we become heroes and heroines. We are the protaganists in the journey of life and this other archetype is the antagonist (male or female). Through their unfortunate desperation to avoid seeing the dark side, they mete out most of the cruelty and damage and pain in this world and never even know it. Basically, they are mad. And it is the heroes and heroines of this world who have to make them see it. And they do because we do.

Amera Ziganii Rao © 2011

Other Links

Men Who DO Believe in Love. Susan Edwards

http://ameraziganiirao.blogspot.com/2011/05/when-men-believe-in-love-susan-jeffers.html

The Denial of Evil. How to NOT Know God. Amera Ziganii Rao

There are two archetypes in unhealed life. One separates the dark and the light into idealism and condemnation and the other is in complete denial of the darkness at all. And in extreme condemnation when they see that it can exist at all. Both archetypes are very dangerous and very unhealed and a complete reflection of a baby attitude to Divinity it seems. And indeed, a baby attitude to our parents. When we are little, our parents are Divinity. It’s natural. Our home, painful or not, is the micro of the macro. The Universe, the world, the family and the whole.

And then we get broken. Both archetypes are broken by life and by parents (who are unhealed people themselves most of the time) and by God into having to avoid the pain of the truth. That Divinity and indeed every single human being is a combination of both the dark and the light. As Samuel Beckett says, ‘Life on Earth. There’s no cure for that’. To be healed is to accept the darkness and to accept that evil is a part of Divinity and not outside Divinity and certainly something that exists.

No separation of the dark and light and no denial of the dark = healed human beings who can take responsibility for mastering their own darkness, instead of the ‘separation’ archetype questioning their own humanity time and time again out of fear that they are evil itself and that their only salvation is to find the light in another person, and being so permanently shocked that life is so full of the dark, and the ‘denial’ archetype who questions everyone else’s humanity other than their own and shits on everyone in the process of their denial and running away from life, determined to believe that the darkness and evil cannot possibly exist. And consequently being a placid and frustrated human being of no passion, no drive and no ability to even enter the dark, especially when it is needed, ie to fight for one’s rights. Or indeed, to have any sexual, passionate, or creative life connections even when they want to. Who spend their time just running or condemning, out of the need to deny that evil or the dark exists, while being secretly fascinated by it and deeply envious of anyone who can use it and master it. The unhealed life of pain, frustration and nothing.

We are all a combination of humanity and cruelty and so is Divinity. That is the process of creation and creativity and life. The process of moving from the dark into the light is being done by the whole universe all the time and especially on this planet. And is reflected best in any whole human being such as a highly skilled actor or musician or painter or the like. The dark and the light. Their passion and tenderness all in one. Moving from one to the other with so much ease, it’s breathtaking, magnificent and magnetic. Why they are at the top of their game. And why we all watch them. That process of perfection is the highest level of existence. The highest level of Divinity on Earth. Rage and heart combined. God.

The point of this planet was to find out what we are not, so we could find out what we are. We are ALL moving into the light, into love at each moment. And we are ALL a part of Divinity. Divinity is the all. Divinity is both the dark and the light. The relentless drive of creation, without mercy, without benevolence, and without any tenderness whatsoever. And it’s okay. All of that is there too, but like a good parent, it is only given at particular times. The rest is creation, creation and creation. The dark and the light combined.

The process of existence for the whole Universe therefore, is to move from the dark into the light and utilise both. Not deny the existence of darkness and therefore avoid the responsibility of mastery and to condemn anyone who embraces the wholeness of rage and heart. And in the other archetype, not to spend one’s life shocked by the presence of evil as if it is separate from one’s self and separate from Divinity or existence.

While questioning one’s humanity because the other archetype of denial has judged you to be evil.

There is no demiurge and there is no devil incarnate. And no one is above rage or cruelty or stupidity or ignorance or profane being. It is all part of the whole. The point is mastery, not suffocation, not denial, not condemnation, not pretence, not bland living, not running away from being. And certainly not judging. The healed human being is one who accepts that not only is he or she both, but that Divinity is both too. And that breaks one’s heart into a million pieces, as it is supposed to.

And then one finally heals. And then one can finally live. And then one can finally love.

And the most difficult thing of all to remember in this extremely difficult and essential process, is that whether we separate good and evil or deny the presence of evil at all, it is all to cover up one thing and one thing alone. Lack of courage. The fact that courage is our responsibility and ours alone (In the seen world, not the unseen world, but that’s a whole other subject, whether one calls it alchemy, angels or prayer) is the single reason we freak out into the broken heart in the first place.

Divinity is not here to do it for us for one second. We represent on this Earth and we are the ones who have to do it and any un-healing that we regress into is totally understandable but ultimately useless. We are the ones who have to accept our extreme cowardice and then we have to do something about it. There is no other way. And THAT is what breaks our hearts and nothing else.

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How To Know God. Deepak Chopra

....This mixture of love and anger, peace and violence, that we all have to live with had dawned on him. In place of certainty there was now ambiguity - people he once trusted completely had showed that they possessed a darker side. By implication the same holds true for each of us and by extension, God.

Everyone must face this conflict, but we resolve it in different ways. Some children try to preserve innocence by denying that its opposite exists; they turn into idealists and wishful thinkers. They show a strong streak of denial when anything 'negative' takes place and will remain anxious until the situation turns 'positive' again.

Other children take sides, assigning all the anxiety-provoking traits to a bad parent while labelling the other as always good. Both of these tactics fall under the category of coping mechanisms; therefore it comes as no surprise to find how much they invade religious belief in stage one, which is all about coping.

The good parent-bad parent solution takes the form of a cosmic battle between God and Satan. There is abundant proof in the Old Testament that Jehovah is wilful and cruel enough to assume the role of bad parent himself.

Even a man of titanic righteousness like Moses is deprived in the end of being able to enter the Promised Land. No amount of fear and love, however you mix them, is enough to satisfy God. His capriciousness knows no bounds.

However, if this portrayal is unacceptable, there must be an 'adversary' (the literal meaning of Satan's name) to take the blame away from God. Satan appears in the Old Testament as tempter, deceiver, stealer of souls, and the fallen angel Lucifer, who through pride tried to usurp God's authority and had to be cast down to hell.

You could say that he is the light gone bad. But never once is he described as an aspect of God. The division between the two makes for a much simpler story, as it does for a child who has decided that one parent must be the good one and the other bad.

The other coping strategy, which involves denying the negative and seeking always to be positive, is just as common as religion. A lot of harm has to be overlooked to make God totally benign, yet people manage to do so.

In the family drama, if there is more than one child, interpretations become fixed. One child will be absolutely sure that no abuse or conflict was ever present, while another will be just as certain that it was pervasive.

The power of interpretation is linked to consciousness; things can't exist if you are not conscious of them, no matter how real they may be to others. In religious terms, some believers are content to love God and fear him at the same time.

This duality in no way involves any condemnation of the deity. He is still 'perfect' (meaning that he is always right) because those he punishes must be wrong.

In this case faith depends on a value system that is preordained. If some ill befalls me, I must have committed a sin, even if I didn't have any awareness of it. My task is to look deep enough until I find the flaw inside myself, and then I will see the perfect judgment God has rendered.

To someone outside the system, however, it appears that an abused child is figuring out, through convoluted logic, how to make himself wrong so that the cruel parent remains right. In stage one, God has to be right. If he isn't, the world becomes too dangerous to live in.

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Scheherazade. Amera Ziganii Rao

(The best example of a psychopath who demands a woman proves her love to him).

Scheherazade is a legendary Persian queen and the storyteller of One Thousand and One Nights.

The frame tale goes that every day Shahryar (Persian: شهريار or "king") would marry a new virgin, and every day he would send yesterday's wife to be beheaded. This was done in anger, having found out that his first wife was betraying him. He had killed one thousand such women by the time he was introduced to Scheherazade, the vizier's daughter.

In Sir Richard F. Burton's translation of The Nights, Shahrazad was described in this way:

"[Shahrazad] had perused the books, annals and legends of preceding Kings, and the stories, examples and instances of by gone men and things; indeed it was said that she had collected a thousand books of histories relating to antique races and departed rulers. She had perused the works of the poets and knew them by heart; she had studied philosophy and the sciences, arts and accomplishments; and she was pleasant and polite, wise and witty, well read and well bred."

Against her father's protestations, Scheherazade volunteered to spend one night with the King. Once in the King's chambers, Scheherazade asked if she might bid one last farewell to her beloved sister, Dinazade, who had secretly been prepared to ask Scheherazade to tell a story during the long night.

The King lay awake and listened with awe as Scheherazade told her first story. The night passed by, and Scheherazade stopped in the middle of the story. The King asked her to finish, but Scheherazade said there was not time, as dawn was breaking. So, the King spared her life for one day to finish the story the next night. So the next night, Scheherazade finished the story, and then began a second, even more exciting tale which she again stopped halfway through, at dawn. So the King again spared her life for one day to finish the second story.

And so the King kept Scheherazade alive day by day, as he eagerly anticipated the finishing of last night's story. At the end of one thousand and one nights, and one thousand stories, Scheherazade told the King that she had no more tales to tell him. During these one thousand and one nights, the King had fallen in love with Scheherazade, and had three sons with her. So, having been made a wiser and kinder man by Scheherazade and her tales, he spared her life, and made her his Queen.

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AMERA ZIGANII RAO. A PROFILE

AMERA ZIGANII RAO ALCHEMY & LIBERATION & HUMANITY™

The Sacred Whore High Priestess Society™
The Return To The Source. Ascension.

SOCIAL REFORM. THE FIGHT FOR FREEDOM AND LOVE. SHAMANISM. PHILOSOPHY. TRUE (UNIVERSAL) LOVE. NEO FEMINISM™. ANTI MISOGYNY. THE ARTIST'S WAY. WIZARDRY. TRUE INTELLECTUALISM™. WISDOM. GONZO SPIRITUALITY. NIHILISM. SEX. SOUL. GOD, THE MOTHER, THE UNIVERSE™. SPIRITUAL EXISTENTIALISM™. THE VOID OF CREATION™. ALCHEMY & LIBERATION & HUMANITY™. HELL. SUFFERING. GROWTH. ASCENSION. LOVE. LIFE. DEATH. WARLORDS OF LIGHT™

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Writer, Speaker and Enlightener, Amera Ziganii Rao, is now putting together a comprehensive and unique programme of Alchemy & Liberation & Humanity™. A programme of learning that is specifically about one particular kind of woman. And one particular kind of man. The Sacred Whore High Priestess™ and the Sacred Whore High Priest™, and the true society that they come from and the one they, in particular, she can and has to return to and that anyone can join her and him in. This is about Paradise on Earth.

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This is a programme, based on my scholarly and non scholarly work over 15 years (so far), if not for my whole life, and my extensive and intense, visceral experiences of self transformation from resignation, cynicism and despair to a state of relative bliss, and above all, the right to be. The programme and the courses and my speaking and indeed my forthcoming book, will cover the method of change. The psychological, sociological, spiritual, cultural, political, emotional and physical and even anthropological methods of change. Why we are here. Who the Sacred Whore High Priestess™ is and why she is here. And who the Sacred Whore High Priest™ is. Why we are here. Who we are and what we are and why we are. The beauty and glory of the truth. The meaning of life, no less. This will be on offer in the future.

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My business is seeing the truly glory of Spirit on Earth. The Sacred Whore High Priestess Society™ and all that it is. Spirit, humanity, sex and love again at last. And the end of our legacy as either servants or witches or unpaid carers or indeed, ignored mistresses, other women, other men even, and the weirdos that are at the bottom of society. This is our world and it is time to take it back and I can show you how. And that makes my life, truly, worth living. I want you to feel the way I do. Alive, with the right to be and the belligerence to exist in this profane and male ‘God’ led world of male supremacy, female supremacy, domestic, casual fascism, tribe rules from hell, with beautiful and kind, love intelligence laden, female and male Cinderella warriors at the bottom, caring for everyone else and getting nothing but hatred, ridicule and isolation for it. The meek are already inheriting the Earth and I can show you how.

Amera Ziganii Rao © 2012

I am THE High Priestess Monarch of the ancient past and I forgive you for becoming enslaved and taken over by the machines of the alien reptile force that invaded and took over Earth 8000 years ago. They taught you to hate me and my kind and you believed them. They told you I and my kind were dictators and that you were slaves, when all we had done was love you, honour you as companions and above all, we had let you just live. We were the holy communers, the ones who gave birth to human beings, the leaders of society, the creators of society, the vehicles of Divinity on Earth and the channels of wisdom. The ones who looked after everything and the ones who built everything and ran everything, because we could. And because we loved it. We are and were the force of creation. And you loved us and you lived. But they told you that you ‘deserved’ power too and that we were the ones standing in your way. And you believed them. The oldest ‘divide and rule’ strategy of hate in history and it worked. They used it and you bought it, hook, line and sinker. You had to give up sex, love, magic and your own spiritual gifts and you burnt, destroyed and violated me for 8000 years. The world calls that male supremacy. And indeed, family supremacy, Matriarchal supremacy and supremacy of the material world and all who believe in it. Men and women like you. When all that you are are slaves to a reptile force to generate hate energy for them to live and thrive and vampire the human race. The puppets of a hate force, that chose to destroy women and men like me, for hate to grow, so they could live. You bought it and it worked. The greatest fraud in the history of the world. I am THE High Priestess Monarch of the ancient past and I forgive you for becoming enslaved and taken over by the machines of the alien reptile force that invaded and took over Earth 8000 years ago. They taught you to hate me and my kind and you believed them. They taught you that my mind was evil. My mind, my sex, my body and my ways of life. The humanity, the glory of sexuality and the glory of creation and creativity and the glory of Divinity in each and every one of us. Our souls. They taught you that human beings are separate from Divinity, that sex was wrong and that women who have minds of their own are uppity slaves. They vilified us but much much worse than that, they destroyed your relationship with all that is unseen, all that we honour and love. They taught you to hate what is really God. By teaching you to hate us, you hated all that is good in yourselves. They taught you to hate the light. They taught you to kill us. The daughters of The Universe. The High Priestesses of God. The Spiritual Mothers. The Sacred Whore High Priestess Avatars of The Universe. The Sacred Army of Love on Earth. The Shamans, the Mystics and the Communers. They called me Eve and blamed me for the downfall of the human race and created the awesome profanity that is religion. Of men, by men and from men. Of reptiles, by reptiles and from reptiles. Christianity, Islam and Judaism and every other philosophy around the world was poisoned. There are no female spiritual leaders left. It is all profanity. They chose you to represent them because they wanted to divide us and they did. They told you to hate me. And you believed them. Now I am back and I forgive you. I forgive you because I can. Because I came here to save your soul. And because I finally know who I am. I am THE High Priestess Monarch of the ancient past. I came here to return your soul to The Source. God, The Mother, The Universe. To return you to what is really God. Because I love you. And because She loves you and your kind, whatever you have done. Whatever you have done to me and whatever you have done to Her. And most of all, whatever you have done to yourself. We forgive you. This is your redemption. Your freedom and your ascension. We are here to save your soul.

Amera Ziganii Rao © 2012

You bought the Sacred Whore like a piece of meat and you called that a wife. Your trophy wives. Your dancing girls. Your chattel and serving girls. Your piece of beauty. You bought us like you would cattle. Then you called it wives. Now you call it prostitution. The High Priestesses of the real God. You bought us to buy God, The Mother, The Universe and you caged us, separated us from our Divine gifts and skills in the Temple and drove us mad and then lost interest in us, because we had no gifts left, no excitement, no hunter in ourselves and no hope or joy left. Then you just called us mad and discarded us. You called us evil and you call love obedience, even though it had already killed us. You moved into our Temples and you played with the divination tools and thought you communed. The destruction of Atlantis was your gift. You stole us from God, The Mother, The Universe and you tried to usurp us. You vilified us, enslaved us and you still envy us today. You call it intuition. You might want to think about this when you hate us out of your jealousy. The mystic gene means physical tortuous pain and taking on the empathy of the human race. All their pains, evils and dark thoughts. We see and feel everything. We make crucial sacrifices to be near Spirit and the unseen and we go without for years. To be shaman is not glamour. I make it glamour. To be shaman is a specific Samurai existence, ascetic and harsh. We commune to be guides. And you take that and you shame yourselves because you just want the meat. You didn’t just want the meat. You wanted our beauty of spirit, our personalities and our love and kindness. And you destroyed them, because you caged us and called us wife.

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The High Priestess Sacred Whores, the High Priests and the true protectors. Those who do not have the gift like either the High Priests or especially like the highest of all, the High Priestess Sacred Whores but who honour, protect and facilitate them to the world. Who honour the Shaman Sacred Whores of this world most of all, and who know who they are and who they are not. Who know the difference, who do not envy and who protect and love the representatives of Spirit, GOD, THE MOTHER, THE UNIVERSE, on Earth. Who honour their wisdom and who honour the latent Shaman in themselves too and who honour the communing ability of the High Priestess Sacred Whores. The non violators. Our only friends. The New Society exists. It is called Enlightenment. It is called Love. It is The Holy Grail.

Amera Ziganii Rao © 2012

The master race. It's all a lie. You are brought up to be a despot king and it is only your sister who ever tells you that you have become a pratt. The master race is all a lie. There are no kings in an equal world. Your father was misinformed. What he brought you up to be was a killer. Pure and simple. A misogynist. A modern misogynist. A polite killer.

Amera Ziganii Rao © 2011

I enter the magical hours of pure feeling, pure thought, pure imagination and I think and I write and I 'mysticise' the Universe. I escape at will, the truth of my humanless, Samurai solitude, and I pursue the truth of love in myself and in everyone else. I am philosopher. I am shaman. I am alone. I frontier the Soul to be spirit on Earth.

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Amera Ziganii Rao is a former hard news journalist who is now turning professional with her art forms and indeed, her healing forms, after a long journey of inner searching, self teaching and exploring many layers and areas of both craft and wisdom. She is now working on her first book of philosophy and esoteric thought, and social, cultural and spiritual commentary. She is also showing her first photography collections. And last but most definitely not least, she is building a business to share her Sacred Whore High Priestess Society consciousness and empowering explorations to reach as many people as possible across the world. She is in her forties and lives in London.

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In the meantime, please enjoy this website. I have included many of the subjects I am covering, areas of experience and insight that I will be exploring to the fullest in my book, the courses and all the other work that is to come as a dramatist, novelist and essayist. I also of course, include many of the wise people on this planet, who have come long before me; authors, screen dramatists, playwrights, film makers, artists, and other enlighteners and grand carriers of the wisdom I have found the most helpful on my journey, to find peace and become enlightened. The seemingly impossible journey, in the face of oneself and one’s circumstances. People who have contributed massively to my healing on this mad journey called life, in this insane existence called The Universe. People who have helped to make me as good a carrier of wisdom as I in turn, can be. Thank you.

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